Fatherless Children Need Christian Mentor
As the rate of divorce and underemployment continues to rise we who are parents have become the offering to many families. Our free will is taken away from us and most of the time the guidance and support we need are not in the one-on-one relationship with our children but in the anywhere and everywhere counseling phone call or in the online world. Christian mentoring relationships have become essential for the well-being of the children and we as parents are realizing it is essential to our sanity.
After the first year in a mentor/mentor relationship, it is very easy to wonder if that person is really there to be a father to our children. The danger is not found in the mentor relationship but in the relationship itself.
I want to share with you share some of the obedience challenges that I have experienced in being a Christian father:
Obedience calls for me to:
o Record all details of my obedience challenges.
o Keep a journal and develop my prophetic gifts. I have been able to use this spiritual discipline to release pent-up frustration and anxiety.
o Seek for accountability. I have to keep myself pure to the word. I have to try not to be head-captured and bring my own shame. The mentor’s goal is a victory, not mine.
o Allow the Holy Spirit to expose those areas in my life that are not pleasing to God. There is perfection in Christ but imperfect people.
o Rest my ear to the word and to the sounds of the Spirit. I have to open my mind to the word and to the effective lives of others.
o Believe God and study to show thyself approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. (2 Tim. 2:15)
o Stand on the word of truth to show thyself approved, a faithful, upright and acceptable unto the Lord, one that seeketh the Kingdom of God and His righteousness.
o Be patient when others act against the word of truth. I know that it is very difficult to please God while others are acting contrary to the word of God. His grace is sufficient to fix all problems when we are humble enough to rest our cases on the word of God and seek His face to see the truth.
I have learned a lot from the lives of great Christian parenting mentors. The names of some of them have become synonymous with excellence in my life. I share some of mine with you.
o John Rogers, founder of People for Christ
o Joe choreanowski, president of World Vision
o Joyce Meyers, founder of diapersz
I felt the pull of their leadership style because they made me feel important. I followed their principles and have vastly benefited from them.
I greatly appreciate all these leaders are here to help me learn from them. They are all elevator verbs that I can do in life
we all have trust issues, which need to be cleared in order for our ministry actions can be seen as successful
we can obtain the precious and priceless information that can only be received as a result of our patience in waiting on God
we all have similar or the same areas that we are intolerant of in others so we need a special grace from God to be approved and miembody to them.
Do you have areas in your life that you are intolerant of? Heck, maybe you do not even realize that you are intolerant of those things in your life. I know that I have areas that I am intolerant of, I fight against it, and I hate it. But does that define me as a person? No, it does not, does it?
Then what defines me, the hideous thought?
I struggle in these areas, I hate it. I can’t stand it, but I don’t know why. I do not subscribe to the ‘you are the rss’ type of thinking. But ‘you are the gana’ type of thinking is another thing.
When I help others:
I draw strength, motivation, passion, love, commitment, devotion, drive, ambition, stretchy, desire, involvement, compassion, care, patience, commitment, directions, help, support, help, and the best fence in what I do. I have charisma, a presence, and power when I help others.
Passionate desire and motivation point to something higher, a calling, and speaks to the heart of God.